I saw a friend of mine earlier this week, I hadn’t seen her since June 2018, so I decided to catch up with her. I asked her how she was doing, and she replied me by saying that last year was her worst year ever. That seemed wrong because the last time I saw her prior to that, she was having a great year and even had outstanding stories of how things were in her life. I stopped to listen to her and realised that – truly she’d had a defining moment that year.

As hard as that was for her, I recollect that ‘HARD’  should never be the summation for the year she’d had. In thinking of her and her summary; I recalled a movie I went to watch with Eddie this week; The Upside – I promise you; I won’t say too much about the happenings, so you can watch and enjoy it.  But I need to take a reference and lesson learnt from one of the scenes.

The main actor is a paraplegic and he had his birthday which he mentioned he would rather spend privately due to his circumstance. On the said day, he got into his house alongside his assistant, only to find friends and family waiting to surprise him. He was extremely upset about it and focused on how hard things were for him and lamented about many things. At that point, his assistant who had a very hard life then told the gentleman to take his eyes away from just himself and his circumstance, but to look around at all he had and be thankful – rather than focus on feeling sorry for himself.

This scene made me realise how easy it is for many of us to spend time feeling sorry for ourselves based on the things that either have happened or not happened to us. It seems easier based on human nature to focus on what we don’t like rather than what we appreciate about an event or a period. This however is counter faith and will not add any benefit to us but make us full of self-pity and ingratitude.

Appreciating God, things, events and the people around us is a personal decision that is based on our focus. You can choose to have a great day, week, month and year or you can also choose not to – it has nothing to do with your experiences but your perspective.

God’s word says:

‘In all things give thanks for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus’ 1 Thessalonians 5:18

As I was talking to my friend, I remembered this scripture and then decided to help her see things differently. She agreed with my view and thanked me for gently nudging her into seeing how great a year she had last year – though she did have a relatively hard incident at some point in the second half of the year. That however, she decided, will no longer define her 2018!

What is defining your life? I want you to realise that it is not the issue, but you who have given the issue the permission to take over your life and joy. Do not let it! Take back your joy and gladness and redefine your days, months and year based on what you truly want to see.

So, the primary message of this post lesson today is that you should Take Back control of your life and environment. TAKE IT BACK because  GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE!

3 thoughts on “Take It Back!”

  1. This is very deep.We should not allow situations and circumstances around us to define our lives. Take a decision to be happy no matter what.

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