It was time to catch up with an ex-colleague. The last time we chatted, he mentioned to me how his dreams were going to be fulfilled in the new organisation he was just moving to. It was clear he was not happy anymore at the previous company and thought his satisfaction was in the next organisation. On picking up his call I asked the question; ‘are you really satisfied?’  And the answer came as a surprise to me.

Firstly, he did not sound as excited as expected and secondly, he seemed to be avoiding answering my question. So, I asked him the question again and he went; ‘Bola, I have never been more unhappy!’ What? That was a surprise to me as I expected him to sing the praise of his newly found organisation. He then said; ‘Don’t get me wrong Bola, the company is good, but I realised that I am still unhappy and cannot seem to find the satisfaction I was looking for. Maybe this industry is not for me, I might look into moving industries.’

Still Unhappy…

At that point I stopped this ex-colleague of mine and told him that I did not think the answer he was looking for was out there. He needed to re-evaluate things generally by looking at other areas of life and see his level of satisfaction. That little exercise should help identify problem areas. This evaluation will also let him see if the problem was internal or external.

As we started walking through the different areas of life, I asked him the all- important question of relationships. The first of which is what his level of satisfaction was in his relationship with God and then his relationships to the important people in his life. These questions were the start of my ex-colleague’s deep introspection and he then discovered that the problem was not either of the two workplaces. It was not even external at all!

This story got me thinking of people who think the next relationship, job, car, house, investment, holiday is the answer to genuine happiness. Only to find out when they have experienced or acquired or made the move to what they thought was the answer, that they were even more miserable.

So, what is the solution?

God’s word when it comes to experiencing satisfaction says

‘And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.’ Isaiah 58:11 (I particularly love the NLT version here)

God has a plan for your satisfaction. He has a plan to guide you continually and satisfy you even in the toughest of times. His plan to satisfy you will also make you stronger and refresh you always. That is surely awesome.

To experience genuine satisfaction, fix the connection with God and He will guide you in fixing the connection with others. He will also lead you to the place where you will experience continuous refreshing – which leads to continuous satisfaction. It is possible to be continually satisfied, even in seasons when things are tough for others. So, take on this little tip.

God is on your side!

ps: read my older blog post on God always showing up on time here




One of the most asked question is ‘how does one hear and recognise the voice of God?’ and the second which is closely similar is ‘what do I do when God seems silent?’. These two questions show how in our walk with God we want to know His mind and sense Him more around us. Once more this week, I was asked the second question again. I tried to answer this question, I decided to use a story in our lives.

Just before Gateway Chapel started about 18 years ago, Eddie & I felt the next move in our business investment was to go into the hospitality industry. There was a strong argument for this as we needed to plan our enterprise in such a way that our businesses would not distract us from our service to God. We went ahead to pray and started out on the journey to search, offer and purchase a hotel.


On starting the process, things were ok, and we continued to pray and seek God’s face about the business. We had already gone about 75% through the purchase process and still had not heard a clear word from God. The idea was great, the reason was great; but God was silent. Pastor Eddie decided we were not going to proceed to the contract signing stage without a clear word from God. No WORD at that point for us meant No GO! That decision cost us financially but gave us the peace of God.


It took a short while later before we heard a clear word from God which interestingly was a confirmation of what God had been whispering into our hearts all along. God had been speaking, but it had been busy, and activity packed that we were not hearing His whispers. But why would God whisper to us? I read a book earlier this week that explained the answer to that. The author said, God whispers to us because He wants us to come close and lean into Him!

God’s word in 1 Kings 19:11-13 says

11 Then He said, “Go out, and stand on the mountain before the Lord.” And behold, the Lord passed by, and a great and strong wind tore into the mountains and broke the rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake; 12 and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a still small voice.

13 So it was, when Elijah heard it, that he wrapped his face in his mantle and went out and stood in the entrance of the cave. Suddenly a voice came to him, and said, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” ( I love the NET version. Read here)


God did not come in the loud events but quietly. He got Elijah’s attention, but Elijah had to lean in and stay still before he heard the still small voice.

Every time you think God seems silent; I will advise you to lean closer so you can hear His whisper. Draw near enough to lean into Him so He can whisper His mind to you. You can see the spectacular from afar, but you can only hear the whisper from close by. My advice is therefore, draw closer to God. Enjoy His peace and the quiet, even if it seems as if you have not heard a loud voice. He will lead you in the quietness.

God is on your side!




PS: Read my older post on God’s good plan here




The question is; was that a good fight or not? Driving into our office earlier this week, we noticed that there was no space for our car. The problem is; church was not in session and there should be a minimum of 10 free car parking spaces in our car park.

One of the neighbours, who has fenced their car park had decided to park their trucks in our own parking spaces! Sharing car parking space is a culture around here and had never been an issue but when a neighbour decided not to share their space, they should not be expected to take 4 spaces from another organisation.

One of the parked truck was also blocking our entrance, so there was a need to have a word. On mentioning the issue to a gentleman in the office, I expected an apology but got a different reaction. He said, with a dismissive tone ‘ we will come move them soon.’


Eddie got upset about this feedback and went to confront the man. Oh dear! Was he going to get into a fight? Few minutes later, he returned with three men apologising for the behaviour of the guy who spoke rudely. The man was a contractor who did not even pass the message on to the others before leaving!

Later in the day, a couple of staff members came from the firm to apologise again and mentioned what had been done to ensure we do not have the problem in future. The confrontation yielded result; yes!


In life, we are faced with battles always. The main purpose of the battles are to establish territories. As much as some of us run away from confrontation, there are some things that will never get sorted or delivered to you unless you are willing to fight for them.

Paul in speaking to Timothy advised:

Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses. 1 Tim 6:12

The recalling of the provision given you and your right will help you fight well. In other words, to enjoy all that God has prepared for you, you will have to fight in the place of prayers and standing on the word of God.

Remember, do not fight just any fight, but fight the good fight of faith for your blessings.


(Have you ever read my ‘fighting for my BIN story?’ If you missed it, you can read it here)




A couple of days ago; my husband and I drove to our church office. It was quiet all round, but the next-door neighbour had his dog in with him. As there was a fence around his property, the dog was let loose inside the compound, but not on the street. Though within the compound, the dog was fierce and just would not stop barking. We then had an interesting situation that was funny, but not funny!

As we came out of the car, I was just going to run into our own building because the dog got more and more agitated and barked even louder. It was therefore a surprise to me when PE decided to taunt the dog! He went closer and started saying ‘hello doggy’ etc. I was surprised as well as shocked. I quickly got him to see the danger of his dog play.


What if the dog got angry and climbed over the fence to chase us? I was not just exaggerating, I had seen this happen in the past. As I said that, Eddie looked me straight and replied ‘That should not be a problem, as all I need is to outrun you – which I know I can do. The dog will then only have you to deal with’        

As shocked as I was with that comment, I burst out laughing! And said, ‘you went to taunt a dog with the intention of the dog getting angry enough to jump the fence and go for someone else? It was not even just that – it was the fact that he was meant to be my protector and here he was, thinking of outrunning me and or feeding me to the dogs!

I looked him square and said – I wonder how you will explain that to my father who gave me to you almost 30 years ago; so you can continue where he stopped – in looking after me! It was such a funny situation as it reminded me of how my brother would get into trouble when we were younger, and all of us would get punished for my brother’s offences.


Sometimes, this seems to be how life plays out and the circumstances even look or feel unfair. Like when Achan took the devoted thing God told Israel not to take and the whole of his clan got punished for it. (read Joshua 7)

‘But the Israelites were unfaithful in regard to the devoted things[a]; Achan son of Karmi, the son of Zimri,[b] the son of Zerah, of the tribe of Judah, took some of them. So the Lord’s anger burned against Israel.’ Joshua 7:1

These things happen sometimes; but I can clearly share with you that God is still with you and will never leave you unattended or without help. Hear his word

For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.” Isaiah 41:13

God is always at hand to help and watch over you – be assured that irrespective of the happenings around you; you are designed to win.

God is on your side!

(You can read more from my older blog post here)




Easter for me is one of the most memorable and special times in the life of a Christian. What it represents is a major reason why we can rejoice. What a great time! Thinking of Easter this year, compared to last year brought me to a point of thanksgiving again.


Just 12 months ago, I remember praying as the catastrophic pandemic of COVID-19 swept through the world. It started out in the mind as an event happening across the ponds and to some unprepared nation. It slowly moved into the United Kingdom where I reside.

The 2020 Easter was spent at home with a massive amount of uncertainty when it came to health and the economy . In all my life as a Christian, it was the first time we were in a place of not being allowed to attend a church gathering, the workplace or even a social gathering.

The government was as confused as the individuals even with the daily debrief from the health ministers, the board as well as the cabinet office. It was like being at war but not certain of what strategies to tackle this enemy with.


I will never forget the main news during that whole period being about the number of infections and then number of deaths. Switching on the news channel was just an introduction to such negative news that created a more distressing position than ever before.

The scary part of the time was not only what was happening in the UK but also what was happening around the world. It also was not long before people that were within touching distance started getting news of relatives who were either infected by the disease or who had sadly passed away.

The period was so dark and sad. It was indeed an unprecedented period in history. I remember trying to envision what life post that time was going to look like and just could not; but held on to faith and hope.


2021, saw us as a nation and people embracing hope and getting excited about the solution at hand. And like many, I am ever so grateful to God that Easter this year will see us experience a totally different situation from where we were last year. Even though things are not totally back to normal; we can surely say – our God has been faithful to us.

He stayed true to His word that says

Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has. compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10 (I absolutely love the message version, check here)

God’s covenant of peace was never removed from us despite all the hard news and happenings around. Today, I celebrate His faithfulness in keeping you and I. He is our prince of peace and the main gift He gave us at Easter is His peace and His hope.

Today, receive His peace which will never depart from you in Jesus name. Also receive His hope which is there to help you look forward to a better and brighter tomorrow.

God is on your side!


PS: Check out my similar inspiration here