My pastor shared with the parents of a young lady in church a funny incident which reminded us of why we ‘Do Not Complain’.

According to my pastor, a couple of years ago, the young lady sent him a birthday greeting which he acknowledged joyfully. The following year, she sent him another message with the exact words as the previous year. After receiving the repeated greeting from her, my pastor replied to her by thanking her and saying. ‘Thank you, but this message seems like a repeat of that sent the year before. Anyway, thank you for sending me the message.’

The following year however, the young lady did not even send any message on the pastor’s birthday. So, pastor told her parents– ‘please tell her I am so sorry I complained.  I will welcome a message from her this year, even if it is the old one that she sent before. As my complaint has now resulted in her not sending any greeting at all.’


It was so funny that this young lady who just about sent a message to her pastor felt the complaint should be met with inaction the following year. And this incident also reminded me of another event I experienced years ago.

I used to call an old neighbour of ours just to find out how she was doing. The problem however was, every time I called her, she would complain about me not calling for a while. That would kind of upset me and I would go into blaming myself for the ‘neglect’. Subsequently, I realised that whenever I thought about and wanted to call her, I would feel a restraint.  I felt as if I would be reprimanded for not calling sooner. This then led to further distance and my total break in communication.

The point of these stories is that our complaints may not always yield positive fruits. I definitely know that God does not like complaint and He actually instructed us His children not to engage in it. Here is a scripture to show that

“Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God” Philippians 2:14-15 (check out the NLT version)

God expects us to do ALL things without complaining so we may become blameless and harmless children of GOD.

Even when it seems justified and difficult to execute, we are instructed not to complain as our father does not like complaining children. In the Old Testament, complaint made God wipe out some of His people. Despite all He went through to deliver them, complaints made Him disassociate with them. This little thing called complaint is a big deal to God, so desist from engaging in it.

Whatever happens, Do Not Complain because God is on your side!


PS: Catch up with my previous post here




After taking permission from the lady involved in this story, I thought to share with you an important lesson learnt in today’s write up – Why Can’t I?

I was trying to remember the lyrics of a new song sang in church at our in-person service on Sunday without success. I kind of knew a few of the words but just could not work out the title.

Still thinking of that, I heard the lovely lady that works with me in the office humming what I thought was the song. I knew she was in the service and there was a high possibility of her knowing the song. I asked her for the title of the song she was humming; to which she looked at me in surprise and said, ‘what? No, you can’t want that.’  I asked her; ‘why can’t I?’ To which she responded because it’s from Burna Boy!


She offered to get me the title to the Sunday song (which she did) but I then decided to ask her a question. ‘But…why can I not get to know the song you are singing so I can sing the same?’ She went;’ You cannot because you are a pastor and not allowed to sing this.’  My next question was, but why not? Why am I not allowed something, and you are? We are both Christians, going to the same heaven!

I guess it is interesting to look closely at some things we do and wonder if we will be happy for someone else to copy us, pastor or otherwise. If I was to be an example to the people around me; what will I allow them copy me in doing? What will I drop because I do not think it will benefit other people? I wonder if we should just choose the discipline of living like we can be followed and still be a good example to the people around us.

Please do not get me wrong, I do not know Burna Boy nor any of his songs and not saying whether it is right or wrong but bringing a lesson here is as said by Paul in scriptures. Read here with me


It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble. Romans 14:21 (NET version)

I think part of growth is self-audit and maturity. Maturity dictates that there are things we drop for the sake of who we are and what we represent. Not just as pastors, but because we represent Christ and others look at us. Someone is looking at you and taking a cue from you daily.

My pastor is currently preaching a series on ‘Are You an Influencer?’ and the crux of that message is; wherever you are in the world, someone is looking at you as their influence and will follow your lead. If they should, will you be leading them right or wrong.

Choose right, as it pays to be a great example always.


Read my older blog post on Promises here




Have you ever found yourself struggling with the pronunciation of some words? My write up today about Are Your Ears Tuned? shares an incident between my husband and I. I tend to harass him whenever  he pronounces certain words.

So, earlier on today while chatting, he pronounced one of such words and as usual, I was quick to pounce. I told him he got the pronunciation of the word wrong. At that point he laughed and said my ears were tuned to hear him pronounce the word wrongly! He said, it was not his pronunciation as much as my hearing that was faulty! That little drama however got me thinking about what our ears are tuned to hear.

The story is told of a farmer who moved to Wall Street as a trader. One day as he was walking at lunch hour with a colleague, he heard a noise and asked if his friend heard the same. The ex-farmer said he heard the noise of a distressed cricket but the friend did not hear that due to the noise around.


The ex-farmer explained that he heard because he had tuned his ears to hear such sound. He then went about carrying out an experiment. He dropped a coin and despite the noise, everybody around stopped and looked down to find the coin. Everyone knew the sound of money as their ears were tuned to it but not the sound of a distressed cricket.

The story shows that we hear whatever we look out for. The learning point is that if we tune in to God we will hear Him. If you turn aside and listen out for His voice despite your busy lifestyle, you will surely hear Him.


God’s word says

‘My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you, making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.’ Proverbs 2:1-5 (ESV)

If you tune your ears to the word of the Lord, you will hear His voice. It takes being attentive and inclining our hearts to understanding to get the instructions He has prepared for us. I can clearly say that if we seek God’s words the way the traders were seeking for the coin – ears tuned in; we will hear, grow, and be blessed.

The Lord is on your side!


PS: Read my previous blog on paying attention here




Glenn Cunningham was known for his running, but that was not something he got to by design but by accident. He started running because of his accident.

When he was 6 years old, Glenn and his older brother Floyd were badly burned in an accidental fire in their schoolhouse. Floyd died from the burns, and doctors thought that Cunningham’s legs were so badly burned that they would have to be amputated.


Slowly—over a period of months, hard work and determination —Glenn’s legs began to function to the astonishment of the doctors. After he began walking again, he made another discovery. That it hurts when he walks but not as much when he ran.

For the next six years, he just ran rather than walk! Before long, young Glenn Cunningham was known throughout the community for his running. Because he ran everywhere. He once said, “I didn’t move 10 feet without breaking into a run. I ran and ran and ran.” By the time he was 12, Glenn—running despite having legs that were still riddled with scars—was outrunning everyone in his age group in his town.

He went on to run track at his school, becoming a mile-runner . In his last school race, he set a national record, running the mile with a time of 4 minutes, 24.7 seconds. He eventually went on to run nationally, set records and also represented USA in the Olympics.

His legs remained deeply scarred and throughout his life, he would have to massage them and spend time doing long warm-up exercises in order to maintain circulation. He couldn’t run smoothly because of his scars but he compensated with endurance and strength. His injury led to his recognition.


This story reminds me of what the bible says about God using the disadvantages of life for our good. Just as it was with Joseph’s life. Read the scripture here

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. “ Genesis 50:20

God is able to turn every situation around for good. Glenn’s situation was sad, yet from that difficulty came a new found gifting and strength which took him to a height he may never have experienced but for his tragedy.

Wherever you are in your life right now, understand that God can use it to accomplish His purpose.

God is on your side!

PS: You can read more about Glenn Cunningham here)

PPS: You can read my previous blog post on paying attention to the small things