‘PB, is my brain a blessing or a pain? I wish I could remember less.’ said a young lady to me recently. This question was a conflict in heart based on the issue of continually remembering hurts and pains. She wanted to know the best way to deal with past hurts.

The response to this question comes in the story of two friends which I will share below:

“There were two friends who went on a walk through a desert. During the journey, they got into an argument, and it got so heated that one of the friends raised his hands and slapped the other. (I am completely against any form of violence, by the way.)

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything he walked forward and wrote a statement in the sand. The statement was, ‘Today my best friend slapped me in the face.’

The two friends kept on walking after this incident until they found an oasis, where they decided to have a wash. Not long after, the friend who had been slapped got stuck in a swamp. He then started drowning, but his friend saved him. After he had recovered from his shock, he wrote on a stone, ‘Today my best friend saved my life.’

The friend who slapped and saved his best friend asked him, ‘After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write in stone, why?’

The other friend replied, ‘When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.’” 

This is a clear-cut direction and helpful analogy on what to forget and what to remember. Remember less of hurt and more of the good done to us.


The word of God says

‘Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.’  Ephesians 4:32 (Check out the Message version here)

There are times that we will feel upset by actions of others, but the bible gives us the direction to forgive. Choose to remember less of the hurt and focus more on the good that happens to you. Forgiveness is a choice; so, choose right.

There is so much God has for you, never allow any hurt stop you from enjoying God’s plan for you.

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